I keep seeing articles interviewing couples that claim to be okay with a polyamorous relationship. For those wondering, this is a relationship in which one or both partners allowed to do everything that they would do inside of their relationship with other people.
It’s a head scratcher for me. I’ve heard people say that it has helped their relationship somehow. I’m not sure how when you find yourself talking to your husband about who is going on a date with tonight. What was the point of getting married if this was the case? You meet somebody. You date and then you think, you know this relationship is missing something. (Snaps) “I’ve got it! Other people! We should build upon our relationship with each other by seeing other people!” I don’t know when this got to be more of a norm, but if you really think about it, it doesn’t make sense.
Review any type of relationship – not just romantic. In what other kind of relationship improves by focusing your attention somewhere besides your partner? The answer is simple. It doesn’t. And history has taught us all this already. That’s why it’s always so drastic to hear about a mistress in a marriage. Knowing about the mistress doesn’t mean that the pain that you feel will hurt any less.
I’ve wondered about those who say that it has helped their relationship. All I wonder is “How?” How is that you and your partner are both totally okay with this? What happens when you or he falls in love with someone else? Love you say? Yes, clearly there are no limits. Do you invite this third person into the relationship? What if they disagree and make you choose? Then what?
I know what you’re thinking. All of these hypotheticals. I’ll just cross that bridge when I get to it, but why would you want to? Don’t you think that you deserve to have someone all to yourself? The old adage of they’re going to do it anyway isn’t going to hold weight for long. Children are going to break the rules too, but you don’t stop giving them rules. And why? For their own good.
Adults are just big children who still need rules and boundaries. Both within the context of and outside of a relationship
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